why does my ex tell me he loves me
Ex boyfriend giving you mixed signals? Does he call you up one day saying he still has feelings for you, but ignores you the next day when you call him back? Does your ex keep telling you that he loves you, even though you're broken up? And yet every time you suggest getting back together with him, does he suddenly run in the opposite direction? Your situation is a lot more common than you think. Right now, your ex boyfriend might seem or act emotionally conflicted around you. He'll tell you he's confused, or that he wants time alone, or that he 'needs some space' to sort things out. In reality however, something much, much different is going on. And if you want your ex back? You need to recognize exactly what it is. Reasons Why Your Ex Still Loves You After Breaking Up Relationships are full of deep-seeded feelings. The emotional bonds you felt for your boyfriend ran deep, and they also ran deep for him as well. Because of this, your ex isn't going to let you go all at once. It's much easier for him to let you go little by little, because he still has residual feelings for you. So yes, your ex boyfriend might still be in love with you - even after breaking things off. This would be why he still calls you up, text-messages you, or fills your email inbox on a daily basis. Yet at the same time, he's not yet ready to get back together. Keep pressing him for a reconciliation, and you might find your ex slipping further and further away. Here's where you try to walk that fine line. you try to keep that delicate balance between staying in touch with your ex boyfriend without scaring him off. What you don't realize though, is that you're really not doing yourself any favors here. And in most cases, you're actually prolonging the amount of time that you and your boyfriend will be broken up. Why Your Ex Won't Get Back Together With You Right Now This cat-and-mouse game your ex is playing with you right now is designed to accomplish one thing: keep you hanging around. Your boyfriend wants to have his cake and eat it too: he'd like you to stick around and wait for him while he goes out and dates other people, and otherwise enjoys being single again.
This is why your ex says he loves you - it's because he does, but it's also because he wants you to have HOPE. Idealistically, he'd love it if you were to sit idly by as his backup plan, just in case he can't find another girlfriend that's better. And if he does? Suddenly he doesn't love you as much anymore, or he stops calling you altogether. That's when he'll tell you his feelings 'just aren't the same', and that's when you'll lose your ex for good. All because you sat around passively dealing with your breakup instead of being proactive about it. What To Do When Your Ex Boyfriend Says He Loves You When your ex starts telling you how much he still cares about you, that's the exact time you need to step away. The more he presses forward by revealing his true feelings, the further you need to pull back and keep some distance between you and your former lover. This isn't because you're playing games, it's actually the opposite. You're letting your boyfriend know he can't have it both ways: he can't have the friendship and companionship of still having you around while maintaining the freedom of being single. Don't give him the safety and security of knowing you still love him while he's out playing the field, or not committing himself to you 100%. Tell your ex that yes, you love him, but that you can't continue living out half a relationship. Let him know it's best if you both went your separate ways, because you can't keep hearing about how much he loves you yet doesn't want to get back together with you again. Do this, and you're forcing your ex boyfriend to make a choice. You're making him choose to have all of you, or have none of you at all. And while this might sound harsh, and it may be a bit scary? It's actually the one thing that will make your ex realize that he wants you back, rather than run the risk of losing you to someone else.
Is your ex seeing someone else and still claiming that he loves you? LetÁs talk about what this meansÁ ÁHey Matt, why does my ex-boyfriend still think IÁm beautiful and says he loves me and that IÁm almost perfectÁ But heÁs seeing someone else?
I donÁt understand this. He knows I still love him so why would he say these things to me?? Is he just playing with my feelings? Á No, heÁs not playing with your feelings. HeÁs simply expressing his feelings. Love isnÁt everything to most men. There are a lot of things that are way more important to most men than love is. One of those things is respect. Have you ever been in love with someone who didnÁt treat you with respect or do you know someone who has? If he respects himself and you donÁt treat him with respect, thereÁs a good chance that love wonÁt be enough for him to stay with you. Another thing that is more important to men than love is feeling good over a long period of time. If heÁs in love with you but youÁre fighting all the time and heÁs feeling miserable in the relationship, thereÁs a good chance that he loves you but he wonÁt stay through the misery. There are a lot of reasons why he might not be with you and he might go and be with someone else, even if he still loves you. He has insecurities that he needs to deal with. If he has feelings of not being worthy or heÁs afraid that youÁll find out who he really is and that you wonÁt love him for it, he might end up leaving because he doesnÁt want to ruin your idea of who you think he is. He doesnÁt feel like you fit in with the type of woman or the type of relationship he wants to have. Maybe youÁre not fully his type. Maybe youÁre not the type of woman that he would want to have raising his children. He doesnÁt feel like you have similar values. That could be a huge deal breaker for him. He might need someone who isnÁt serious right now. Maybe he has things going on in his life that he feels pulls him away from fully being with you and so he needs someone who is less serious about being in a relationship. For a lot of men, being able to provide for a woman and a family is one of the hallmarks of being a man. And if he doesnÁt have that ability or heÁs afraid he might lose that ability in the future, he may stay out of a serious relationship until he can. I know a lot of women I talk to donÁt understand why a man feels like he needs to do that but being able to provide for a family is a real concern for men.
And if he said that youÁre Áalmost perfectÁ for him. ThereÁs probably something that he needs that you either canÁt or wonÁt fulfill for him. IÁm not sure what exactly is going on in your situation because the question is somewhat vague but it sounds like thereÁs something missing for him. He still loves you and love just isnÁt enough. Maybe he needs to grow with you and he doesnÁt feel like he can. Maybe you guys fight too much when youÁre together. If he feels like youÁre fighting all the time and he doesnÁt want to fight, that could be enough for him to give up. There are a lot of things like that that could happen which would destroy a manÁs desire to be with you long term and look at as someone he could potentially be with for the rest of his life. If youÁve tried getting back together with your ex, you know that it can seem impossibleÁ but hereÁs the thingÁ IÁve been coaching in the dating industry for over 12 years and IÁve seen literally hundreds of people break up and get back together. And whenever a woman gets back together with her ex, itÁs because sheÁs realized one very specific thingÁ ItÁs not about HER. You see, guys rarely break up with a woman because they donÁt like the woman (even if thatÁs what he says in the heat of the moment). Most of these guys happily jump back into a SEXUAL relationship with that woman. If it was about the woman, this would NEVER happen. Instead, itÁs about something much more important to himÁ And if you fix this one thing, you can make him putty in your hands and get him pursuing you for a REAL relationship again. If you want to know what that one thing is, I created a video for you to help explain itÁ Getting back together with a man isnÁt complicated as long as you understand whatÁs REALLY going on. If you make it about you, youÁll just drive him away even further. But if you understand what the real problem is, you can have him back before you know itÁ
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